Sophie Skips Town

Trauma. It’s probably one of the most overused terms of my generation. Yeah, you guessed it. I’m right on the edge between a Millennial and GenZ. The two most trauma-loving generations of all. I’m pretty sure that before my generation, the word, trauma, wasn’t used to exemplify the sad feeling we had when our Starbucks barista spelled our name wrong on our coffee cup. Or perhaps the angry feeling we had when someone “mis-gendered” us. No. I’m pretty sure the word, trauma, was used for a far deeper meaning. But alas, the word is sadly saturated now. It has completely lost its meaning and I’m embarrassed to be using it as the theme of this post. 

If you’re offended by the above statements, it’s probably because you are a Millennial or a GenZ and quite frankly, you get offended by everything these days. I’m sorry…but also, I’m not sorry.

I thought I knew what trauma was at a young age, but to be honest, nothing could have prepared me for when I came face-to-face with real trauma. Quite literally.

The moment I saw trauma in its purest and rawest form was when I looked into the eyes of a 5-year-old Rohingya boy. 

I don’t quite know how to describe it. I was in a room of 15 or so children who looked just like him, but I could not stop staring into the eyes of this boy. His eyes were full of anger. They were also full of fear. But if you looked long enough, they would become completely blank. As if there was literally no life to them. His eyes had an entire life story to tell at the mere age of 5. It was a story that I was dying to know — and at the same time — I was dying to not know. Because I knew it would change every way I saw the world.

He was one of the children who stepped off that bright pink van and entered my school.

That day, everything changed for me. 

A bright pink van pulled up to our school in southern Thailand. I was teaching a class when they arrived. I was in class when the pink van arrived, but I peeked out the window to see the bus park right at the office. About 15 children stepped off the bus. 

When I was out of class, I went and greeted the children. They were from a nearby shelter that housed temporary refugees. I heard they were from Myanmar, so I greeted them in Burmese. They didn’t respond. I greeted them in Thai. No response. I tried English. No response. 

Where were these kids from?

The kids looked hungry, so I, along with 2 volunteers from Canada, scrambled some food for them.

My coworker pulled me aside. “I think they’re Rohingya.”

“Rohingya?” I asked him. Embarrassingly, I had no idea what he was talking about. 

“Yeah, you know. From Rakhine State. In Myanmar. Many of them pay traffickers to take them to Malaysia. But a lot of them end up in Thailand instead. They’re terribly persecuted in Myanmar.”

I had to hold myself back from asking any further questions because I was embarrassed that I had never heard of these people before.

Who are the Rohingya? Where do they come from? These children looked so different from my other students. They were Muslim, not Buddhist. They were slightly darker-skinned. They didn’t speak Burmese. They looked so different from my Karen, Chin, and Kachin students who had come from Myanmar.

They stayed during lunch break and eventually went home on their bright pink van. I went home and took a deep dive into Google search to figure out what in the world “Rohingya” means.

I came across pieces written by Nicholas Kristof  (thank you, Nicholas for all the amazing work you do!!) and others about the Rohingya in 2014 – the world’s most persecuted people. How have I never heard about this before?

I learned about their history and the horrific abuses they faced at the hands of the Myanmar military. At this point, sadly, I wasn’t phased by the abuses…many of the people I worked with faced similar hardships. But what I couldn’t get out of my mind was that little boy’s face and the stories his eyes told me.

I had never seen trauma until I looked into the eyes of that little 5-year-old Rohingya boy.

The bright pink van arrived the next morning. I was determined to make more progress than I made yesterday. 

I started speaking in English again to the children. Most of them stared at me with blank faces. No smiles. I saw the 5-year-old boy whose face haunted me the night before. It looked the same as before. I tried making funny gestures to make them laugh, but nothing changed. To be fair, most American kids don’t find me too funny, so why would some Rohingya kids laugh at my charades?

Eventually…days later…one of the older Rohingya boys, probably a 12-year-old, finally spoke to me IN VERY GOOD ENGLISH! His name was Siphul.

“We come from Myanmar. We are Rohingya.”

“Wow, you speak English! How did you learn?”

“My uncle smuggled English books into our village. That’s how I learned. My father is an Imam. He fled to Malaysia. We took the boat from Myanmar to meet him in Malaysia, but now we are here. I don’t know what to do.”

Over the next few days, we started to talk more. He shared a bit more about how he came to Thailand, but didn’t share much. Lucky for you, I’m writing this blog 8 years later, so I can tell you exactly how they arrived. But it took me about 5 years to figure out the full story. I actually wrote a children’s book about it. Relationships and trust-building takes time. Don’t ever take it for granted. While I can’t share all the details due to privacy, here is what I can share: